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The End Is Near

So I literally have less than a month before graduation and I'm SO ready to go home.... everything is getting on my nerves, I'm so stressed out trying to pass my classes, with everything else going on.  And you already KNO I'm ready to get away from this demon who is my roommate...pls forgive me for calling here that.... but I just need to tell you this story and tell me if this is okay or not....

Okay so for the first half of spring break I stayed at school b/c I was going to cali at the end of the week of spring break. And during that time I was home, I rented some movies to watch and I go in the living room to watch them and my dvd player is gone (sidenote: everything in the living room was purchased by me before I moved in w/this chick)  So I'm like wtf, so I text my roommate like "ummmmm do u know where my dvd player is?" and I get no response(she had been gone since the beginning of spring break). But then I'm like fuck it, and yea, even tho she wasn't home I went in her room to see if my dvd player was in there, I mean its not like I was gonna disturb anything, and she had no right going and taking it anyways its not hers, anf if it is in there, then I'm just taking back whats rightfully mine! So I go in and low and behold, it was there!  So I take it out and plug it up so I can watch my movies.....but the shit aint working, even after I try to play several different dvd's.  So I call the technical service on the dvd player and go through some trubleshooting, only for them to tell me it can't be fixed. So I'm pissed, I'm like how do u, A. take my shit, B. stash it in your room like its yours, and C. break the shit!  So I call my mom and of course she all like you should have never went in her room and just waited till she got back yadda yadda, but I'm like I dont give a fuck...but I get to thinkin like I should put this back in her room, because if I don't she gonna say like I coulda broke it or something crazy, so I just put it back in her room.  The next day she texts me askin me for something, and I ask her again like where the fuck is my dvd player, and she like oh its in my room, I'll get it when I get back............ mind you this is like march 6, or 7th.  So now spring break is over and I'm like okay I'ma ask her for it, see that its broken, and tell her to fix it or buy me a new one.  But I just been busy and haven't really said shit to her about it.  But today I do, and this trick tells me, "Oh, my cousin borrowed it, she thought it was mine"....and at first I'm all pissed of like wtf.  But I get to thinkin about this shit....... and I'm like this don't make sense, because even if she did borrow it, she woulda brought it right back b/c the shit is broke! ....So she leaves, and I'm like you know what, I'm just go in and see if my dvd player is there.....So I go in and why is this shit in pieces! Like all taken apart like this bitch is tryna fix it!

What would yall do honestly???

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Bottom line-if I sleep with a woman I don’t know or care about SEX is NOT going to make me care. That kind of sex is like scratching an itch. Once a man scratches, he’s through. He ain’t sitting around thinking about that spot that itched or how good it felt scratching it. He’s moving on with his life until that spot itches again and it don’t matter which hand he scratches it with, just as long as he gets rid of the itch.

Too many women PRETEND they can handle a sexual fling, but wind up getting caught up and wanting us to romance and wine and dine them and pretend we’re having a “relationship” when it’s NOTHING but a boooty call. Come on, ladies, y’all know I’m telling the truth.

Unfortunately, ladies, you are part of our problem. You sleep with us BEFORE you know us or what we’re about. Having sex with a man does not automatically make that a “relationship”. Many women will deny they think like this but I’m speaking from personal experience. Also, ladies know when their men are fooling around and still turn a blind eye by getting mad at the other woman. Now what kind of sense does that make? Why should that woman make YOU(a total stranger) a priority in her life? IF HE DID NOT MARRY YOU HE IS STILL SINGLE. The “other woman” is not breaking up a “happy home”.

Many women marry men who were cheating BEFORE they walked down the aisle and then are SHOCKED that a fancy wedding dress or an expensive walk down the aisle didn’t change who he was. Why should he change? YOU let him know it was acceptable by sticking around that long.

Ladies, start living with your eyes OPEN. Most shady men give themselves away one way or another, usually before the first 30 days. Women have to stop “rewarding” unfaithful men by pretending it ain’t happening. All of us Black Men (BM) do not cheat. I do not cheat on my lady so don’t buy the hype. I know other BM who do not but many men WILL cheat if there are NO real penalties for it.

Stop jumping into bed with brothers YOU DON’T KNOW. That means fewer opportunities for men to cheat. Women have to STOP being so afraid to ask the important questions that would reveal his TRUE lifestyle.

Worry LESS about what kind of job he has and what kind of car he drives and encourage him to talk about his past, particularly his past with women. OPEN those ears and listen. Does he put down his ex-women and blame them for everything? And don’t be so vain. You are NOT a better woman than his last. If he dogged her out, you will probably be NEXT.

Observe him when you are with him. Do you have his home number? Work number? Have you seen where he lives? Where he works? Is he secretive? Did you ask if he’s married or engaged? How does he treat other people? Listen to what he says, NOT what you want to hear. Stop INTERPRETING the meaning of what he says to fit your purposes.

If he says, “I’m not lookin’ for nothing right now” - DON’T tell yourself, “Aw, he just scared of getting hurt. I can change his mind..” NO YOU CAN’T. He said exactly what the hell he meant. BM don’t have to lie when so many BW are already DEAF.

If you can’t answer BASIC questions about a man DON’T OPEN YOUR LEGS. I could kinda understand back in the days when sex wouldn’t KILL people but now? There’s no excuse and if a BW takes that huge risk of sleeping with a STRANGER then she better protect herself - sexually AND emotionally.

Show our d*ck to the door if we pressure you for sex too soon. Don’t be afraid to be alone. After you give our d*ck some you will probably be alone anyway but now you feel like a fool. In other words, take your time and check us out. If we REALLY like you, we’ll stick around. BUT if you decided to sleep with a man you hardly know, PROTECT yourself and keep your expectations to ZERO. We do not owe you a relationship or another date just because you had sex with us. That’s not how it works, baby

You are TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE for your own sexual behavior the same as I am. Blaming the man won’t change a damn thing. BW have to look in the mirror and take SOME of the blame for what’s wrong with BM/BW relationships. Let me end by saying….

SEX DOES NOT EQUAL A RELATIONSHIP. GIVING A MAN A READY-MADE FAMILY WILL NOT MAKE HIM COMMIT IF HE DOESN’T WANT TO. A MAN WILL NOT RESPECT A WOMAN WHO DOES NOT RESPECT HERSELF OR HER BODY, IF YOU TRADE SEX FOR MATERIAL THINGS YOU ARE PROSTITUTING YOURSELF.

IF HE DOESN’T TAKE CARE OF HIS OTHER CHILDREN WHY WOULD YOU HAVE A BABY WITH HIM? IF YOU REWARD A DOG WHY SHOULD MEN STOP BEING DOGS? BRING MORE TO THE TABLE THAN YOUR BODY. NO, YOUR PUSSY IS NOT MADE OF GOLD. IT IS ONLY AS GOOD AS I THINK IT IS. BELIEVE THAT.

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So Cali was EXTREMELY fun....I had thee best time I've had in a loonggg time.  We partied thee whole time we were there, and I was SO worn out when I got back!

Also, I met soooooooo many dudes there, it was kinda shocking.  But what was really shocking was that I met a dude from my home town!  Exactly where I'm going back to after graduation!  Like it was so weird, he was there visiting as well.  Like he lives literally one street away from my aunt!  How crazy is that?  So anyways we've been talking since we met in Cali.  And like its just been pretty casual, just getting to know eachother, yadda yadda.  So anyways, me being the STALKER that I am when I find out his last name, I go look for his facebook . . . . . and what do I find!  Lol, its nothing like a gf or anything, its worse, KIDS! Lmao, I'm just playin yall, but to me its almost just as bad.  I know thats wrong to say yall, but I can't help it,  like maybe its b/c I don't have kids, but when I find out a dude has some like its a major turnoff.  And besides that, the guy JUST turned 23, like literally TODAY, lol, and he has TWO kids.... one looks like 2 or 3, and the other is a baby, prob a few months old.  And besides all that, like whyyyyyyy haven't you even told me about them??  I don't know man, I was kinda feeling him, but now like I don't even care, I know thats so horrible to say, but like I can't help the way I feeellllll.